Why do I practice EC?
Not only is practicing EC easier than I first imagined, it has enhanced my cloth diapering experience and ultimately my relationship with my child. Here are just a few of the benefits I have found so far:
- It has encouraged me to be more in tune with my baby’s needs, elimination needs and his other needs as well.
- It has created another opportunity to teach him, communicating to and with him. I talk to him and even share sign language for “potty” and “all done”. Sometimes, as already stated, we read while on the potty, and play a little afterward. It makes it a very positive experience for all.
- EC has prolonged the life of my diapers and wipes, prefolds, covers, pockets, homemade liners (which I absolutely love) etc… The less they get soiled the easier they are to wash and clean, which alleviates a little of my load each day.
- EC has almost eliminated (no pun intended) the need for my diaper sprayer. Thankfully! I really dislike spraying diapers!
- Beyond simply being more in tune with Ezra’s needs, it is teaching me more about his person. I am not exaggerating when I say that I am learning about his personality, what focus’ him, what motivates him, what rubs him the wrong way. I know this is just a result of being more “hands on” with my child.
I really believe it is an evolution of understanding that brings us to do one or more things like cloth diapering, practicing Elimination Communication, making homemade baby food, or buying organic.
If you think back, what lead you to cloth or doing something that you feel has bettered you, your family, and/or our planet? And why do you do it? It is amazing how one good thing leads to another!
How do I practice EC?
This is also a BIG question!
The first few days I held him over the potty, with his back against my chest, holding him gently beneath his knees. Once I purchased a potty, I held him the same way just over the potty. Several days later, I began sitting him on the potty and I would bear his weight a little for him.
Ezra would not eliminate when I placed his potty on top of anything so we went to the floor of his room and this became the spot.
Then once I felt he was comfortable, I sat him on the potty only holding his sides gently. He began automatically leaning forward a little when he went. Now, I am slowly trying to let go and see if he’ll sit by himself and go, but we’re not quite there – yet.
This brings me to a challenge that I am now having where Ezra doesn’t want to sit still. Many changes have taken place in the past month. He is crawling, beginning to eat solids, using his hands to express himself, and babbling more. He’s getting more and more in touch with himself (literally) and knows what he wants.
Therefore, when he won’t sit still, I have had to resort to playing patty cake, music, reading books, etc. to keep him relaxed on the potty for as long as he will allow. I do not recommend potty time with fussing, crying or absolute refusal. So we try to keep it as relaxed as possible. Although sometimes, I must say, it is not. When it is not in a relaxed state, we try to get it there or we end our potty session.
Alternate ways of practicing EC.
As most of us know, in many other countries letting babies go diaper free is common practice. Here, in America, it is much less practiced and some of us need support and guidance to learn how to even begin. Although, I have not done extensive research, I have read that in countries like America some practice Elimination Communication full-time, some practice part-time or whenever they can.
As I understand it, the way we practice EC in my family would be considered part-time since Ezra does not go diaper free all day and we are not catching every single pee, even though we practice all day. I have chosen what I see as a happy medium and use cloth as a back-up. It works well for us. Plus, I love cloth too much to not use it at all.
With all of that said, there are different degrees of practicing EC. If you are nervous about it, take baby steps and just try doing it part-time or when you can. Also, if you need more encouragement, there may even be an EC group near you that can help.
What is the key to our happy potty learning?
The key that I believe has made our EC experience positively successful thus far is (drumroll please) ………
Isn’t flexibility something we need for every aspect of parenting and life for that matter – the ability to bend, the openness to learn, and the willingness to go with the flow, letting our children be who God made them? I am trying to learn this very thing!
In the beginning of our ECing days, I could feel myself getting tense about missing a poop (maybe because I dislike spraying diapers). But I have to tell myself that elimination communication not about missing a cue or signal, it’s about fostering an environment that allows growth and learning naturally and healthfully; about baby to be free to control his own elimination needs, and communicating this to and with him as best we can. We typically don’t think babies have this ability…but I believe that, in a kind of astonishing way, they do.
In addition to being flexible, here are some random tips that I have found helpful:
- Follow your intuition. I find it is an amazing gift God has given us.
- Avoid putting baby on potty when crying, fussy, or agitated.
- Praise baby when baby eliminates, stating what baby has eliminated.
- Rubbing the tummy (over & under belly button) in a clockwise across-down-back-and then up motion (like a rectangle) may help move the bowels when baby is unable to poop. I learned this from a message video. It has worked well for me with both of my boys, whether ECing or not.
- Rubbing or patting baby’s lower back gently may also help with moving bowels.
- Make a sound for pee and poop to help encourage your baby to eliminate (occasionally this works for Ezra the rest of the time he just finds it funny).
- Remember that the process of reaching milestones may change your baby’s elimination cues or signals, and therefore may increase misses. As you adjust to your baby’s needs you’ll catch more pees and poops and regain a rhythm or schedule.
- Keep it light and try to have fun with baby. When it’s early in the morning I know this one’s a tough one ?
I hope sharing my EC experience has been helpful.
With all that is possible in practicing Elimination Communication, my family has found (and accepted) what works great for us. And that is what I recommend for you! No pressure. Only love.